“Be too busy working on your own grass that you don’t have time to compete with others.”
I learned this valuable lesson about competition at a very young age.
My dad was the first person to teach me to always challenge myself. Every time I achieve anything in life, he would challenge me to do better. If I ended up in the top 5 of my class, my dad would ask how come I wasn’t in the top 3. If I won a silver medal from my swimming competition, he would ask why I couldn’t get gold. It was hard to get a compliment from my dad growing up because he always told me that life was a series of challenges and mountains to climb. He taught me never to compete with anyone but myself. He used to say that winners are not winners because they want to win the race with others. They are winners because they want to win the race with themselves.
Today, I want to share with you 5 reasons why competition actually hurts you more than helps. I am writing this post in hope that you will find your focus and grow. Let’s get started!
#1 Competition Is A Confidence Killer
Competitiveness is not a bad thing. I am a competitive individual myself but in a different way. When I see others do better than me, I often tell myself that I need to be even more humble, that I need to learn from them and work harder. My dad used to say that your confidence doesn’t grow when you try to compete with others, your ego does.
It is actually the process of realizing that you are not where you want to be yet and that you still have a lot of things to learn and a long road to go that will help you build up your confidence. When you can put yourself at this level of thinking, your confidence will be sustained as you start your journey on self-growth and self-realization.
#2 Competition Kills Relationships.
When you always try to compete with other people, you get stressed out and frustrated. You carry a negative energy around you that no one wants to be close to. When you try to be better than anyone else, no one else would want to have any friendships or relationships with you. However, when you work hard on improving yourself, you actually inspire others to be better themselves and empower them to do the same.
#3 Competition Hurts Your Health
You will soon realize that there will always be someone out there who can do what you do 10 times better than you. Living a competitive life is like trying to swim in the middle of the ocean. You will get stressed and exhausted because you swim and swim but you can’t reach your destination. Did you know that stress is the number 1 reason why people are sick and depressed? Why do you think people who work in the high and intensely competitive environment usually have a lot of health problems?
Seriously, nothing in life is worth more than your physical and mental well-being. Don’t push yourself to that corner!
#4 Collaboration Always Wins Over Competition
Pause a minute and think about the last 3 things I just mentioned! Let’s not go that way. Don’t let your insecurity and ego grow. Let’s collaborate! Let’s work together instead of competing against one another. We are all unique and talented in our own way and we can put our strengths on the table to build success together while helping one another overcome our weaknesses.
#5 You Are You And That Is Your Power!
You know what’s the saddest thing in life? I think the saddest thing in life is living your life on someone else’s terms and that includes chasing a shadow of someone else and trying to be better than them. You will always be one step behind. You will never find happiness and success. You will never truly be fulfilled with love and passion. The grass is not greener on the other side. The grass is greener where you water it. You can be whatever you want to be! Just stay you and be true to who you are!
Never stop learning and growing because life is a journey and success is not a destination!